I started to feel a bit down this Monday morning, just because of a relationship issue with my friend. Thinking about that distracted me from concentrating on the lecture in class. I had been in bad mood all the morning until I received a sweet message from my boyfriend, “Do me a favor, smile”. Yes, I did. I smiled and wrote down another “very sweet” message and sent back to him. You can also do the same thing for yourself. Take about 10 minutes each day (before going to bed is the best time), write down anything fun, interesting, good thing have happened to you today. You don’t have to be happy all the time, but start such a habit like that may improve your mood, and get you thinking positively.
You might have heard about the term “carpe diem”, which means “seize the day”, put aside all differences, all fears, all worries, and just go for it, make the most out of that part of time. Since that day when I watched a movie named Dead Poets Society (1989) which was about an English teacher John Keating (Robin Williams) inspires his students to discover their love for poetry and seize the day, I found out that happiness is not about achieving something big, but savor every moments in your life. Let’s “Carpe Diem” more often or you will miss out on life and never truly be happy. Here’s my own practices:
– Give someone a compliment. I often tell my friend something like “you’re so pretty/fashionable today”, these sweet words make her smile for sure, and I’m happy too.
– Say “Good morning, have a nice day!” to strangers, taxi/bus driver, or the cashier that you see on your daily route. Believe me, that would be a good start for your beautiful day!!
– Sharing! The keyword here is share:) I shared my umbrella with a girl in a rainy day at the bus station. I hadn’t known her before, but I just stood next to her and give her my umbrella to keep her books from getting wet. I got such a great feeling that day!
– Take photos! Don’t hesitate to capture lovely moments, Maybe something funny, or interesting happened that you witnessed, or just an awkward moment of your boyfriend. These photos can bring you a grateful feeling when you look back, maybe, 10 years later.
I also read some ideas from Eric Barker for your reference:
- Think about something you love. Imagine how you would feel if you lost it. Now be happy you have it. Research shows savoring has powerful affects on well-being.
- Take a nap. Studies show we can process negative thoughts just fine when we’re exhausted — but not the happy ones.
- Smile. Happy or not, just smile. Studies show it can trick your mind into thinking you feel good. And it hasplenty of other benefits.
- Hug someone. Corny? Maybe. But it works.
- Share the best event of your day with your romantic partner and have them do the same.
- Work on a hard problem that makes you think. Studies show if your brain is dedicated to a mental chore, it can’t bother you as much with distressing emotions.
- Send someone a thank you email. Research shows gratitude is one of the most powerful keys to happiness.
How about you guys? What’s your 7-second secret to be happy?